Today is not an easy day for many daughters or for Mothers; Not only did they lose their mothers, but also lost a part of themselves in the journey of grief. The pain of the loss is heavier today and the days leading up to Mother’s day than any other days in the year. I am wholeheartedly dedicating this time to feel with those who have never met their Mother, did not have or do not have a good relationship with their Mother, lost their Mother, and most especially to womxn who lost their babies in utero and Mothers who lost their children.
As a grief and loss therapist, I, too, have experienced many losses in life and that makes part of my work around grief and loss very special because I get it, I get how painful it is to lose the people you love beyond death. I dedicate my time in acquiring training in grief and loss / death and dying to help serve those who continue to feel pain from their losses.
Death has been my biggest teacher. Learning about death has taught me how to live and learning about life has taught me how to die.
Death is a part of life and the truth is birth is the major cause of death. Our society has conditioned us to be afraid of death and dying and therefore we tend not to talk about it or don’t know how to talk about it. This fear-based belief imposed on us only perpetuates isolation and hinders many of us from opening up to the painful emotions surrounding the loss. It is helpful to remember that staying and feeling our emotions is the ultimate source to healing.
To those who are struggling today, try to connect with your mother in spirit. Use whatever feels right to get connected. Use art to connect and be creative. Feel the love of others to feel less alone and to feel loved. To this end, I invite you to lean in to your pain, get to know them, befriend them, and be curious about what your emotions and your pain could be teaching you about your loss.
Thanks to 🇸🇮 Janko Ferlič for sharing their photo!