COMING JUNE 2026
Crossed Signals
When Love Feels Lost in Translation
When ADHD meets love, emotional signals get crossed.
The forgotten conversation feels like abandonment.
The emotional shutdown looks like indifference.
The constant reminders sound like control.
Both partners are reaching for connection yet they end up missing each other.
Grazel Garcia, LMFT
ICEEFT Supervisor Candidate · EFCT, EFIT, EFFT Certified
ABOUT THE BOOK
ADHD does not just affect the person who has it. It shapes every interaction in the relationship.
Crossed Signals is the first book to bring together the neuroscience of ADHD and the science of attachment through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Through the stories of four couples, Grazel Garcia reveals the hidden cycle that traps ADHD-affected partners in patterns of pursuit, withdrawal, shame, and loneliness and shows how to break free.
This is not a book about managing ADHD traits or dividing chores more fairly. The book is about understanding the emotional reality underneath the ADHD and the attachment fears that drive the cycle, the neurobiological forces that accelerate it, and the moments of vulnerability that can finally interrupt it.Written for couples living with ADHD and the therapists who work with them, Crossed Signals offers a framework for healing that honors both the ADHD brain and the human heart.
“The problem is not you. The problem is not your partner.
The problem is the cycle.”
WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR
For Couples
If ADHD is part of your relationship, whether diagnosed or suspected, in one partner or both, this book will help you see the pattern that keeps you stuck and give you a path toward the connection you’ve both been longing for.
For Therapists
If you work with couples and keep encountering cycles that don’t respond to standard interventions, this book will give you a clinical framework for understanding how ADHD neurobiology reshapes the attachment cycle and how to adapt your approach accordingly.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Grazel Garcia, LMFT
ICEEFT Supervisor Candidate · EFCT, EFIT, EFFT Certified
Grazel Garcia is the founder and clinical director of Grayslate Therapy in Los Angeles, a group practice specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, individuals, and families. Her clinical work focuses on the intersection of ADHD, neurodiversity, and attachment — helping couples understand that their struggles are not failures of love, but signals that got crossed along the way.
She holds certifications in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), and Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT), and is pursuing ICEEFT Supervisor certification. She leads Hold Me Tight couples retreats and speaks nationally on ADHD and attachment in relationships.